Lawrence wrote:You can counter that you will agree to the split custody under very strict circumstances.
I can tell you why this won't work.
Lawrence wrote:that NJ seek psychological help.
The judge ordered NJ to get a psych eval in March of 2009. Here it is almost a year later and the judge REFUSED to put a time line on NJ for it after my lawyer asked in two separate hearings to do so.
Lawrence wrote:that daughter is provided a counselor (not an abuse counselor) but some type of general social work counselor.
I objected to D7's counselor because she REFUSED to let me be at the second appointment with D7 after NJ hid the first one from me. Did the judge care? Nope, my objection to D7 seeing this therapist was overruled.
Lawrence wrote:that the contempt charge against NJ for false abuse charges is pursued.
You don't understand. The judge STILL believes this took place even though I never left D7's side that day AND the CE testified the allegations by NJ were a "total fabrication."
Lawrence wrote:set conditions for reviewing custody in a year or so based on whatever medical or review standards your attorney and you can deem necessary.
Ok, how about this. NJ was arrested for abusing prescription medication (writing fake scripts for herself) and convicted just before the last custody trial. The CE stated she has substance abuse disorder according to her real-life history and the MMPI-2. He recommended NJ get drug testing past her one-year, court ordered drug testing. Did the judge care? Nope. You know what she told NJ? She said, "Maybe you shouldn't work at a dentist office anymore."
Lawrence wrote:have very specific rules for parenting visitations or time be drawn up in context of your current problems with being 4 hours away.
I mentioned this point this past week to the judge. She replied with, "You have no idea what long distance parenting is like until you live 800 miles from your kids."
Finally, and most importantly, the judge told me last year, "I will not take the kids away from their mother." You can't argue with someone who has that mentality and isn't even shy about it.