So far, I can't complain too much about my state, Delaware. The NJ was assured by her man hating attorney early on that DE always sides with the mom. I've learned the folloing:
- In Delaware, you are inelligible for alimony or spousal support once you cohabitate. Thus, if you are a NJ SAHM and want to move your unemployed, horse stall mucker 2nd cousin / boyfriend in, by all means go for it but don't expect you STBX husband to pay for it.
- CHild Support goes by the Melson formula and judges are very, very adverse to go against it. It also protects the first $13000 of yearly income from being included in the child support calculation since it assumes you have to support yourself before you can support the kids. THe Melson formula is basically an income shares model with a few more variables thrown in. If you have 50/50 shared and you and the NJ make the same amount, there is no child support.
- While the courts hand out ex parte protection orders like they are candy, once you go into the court room, the judges in my experience actually use the rules of evidence to determine if abuse occured. Thus, if your NJ said you sent emails threatening to harm her, the judge is going to want to see them or they will go Judgy Judy on you. I've had had 4 DV protection orders dismissed after trial so far.
- word is, my state is going towards a rebuttable persumption of 50/50 shared custody. We shall see what happens with this.