OK, need some input. Have seen it referenced a lot here. Think Tef coined the term. I borrowed it a few times. It's Daddy Scholarship.
The concept is simple. We pay CS for many years. Hopefully kid goes off to good school. Kid asks for help. Mom often sends him to talk to dad. If we were married to mom and it was a healthy relationship, and that statement was made, mom & dad would discuss like adults, if dad handled it dad would lay down some ground rules, and either the kid abided, or lost the parental support.
But alas, Ex's are often vengeful malicious types with entitlement issues, so they instead play the victim, talk about how dad screwed them, talk about how poor they are, and demand that you "get it from your dad, he's got all the money." So the issue is, what parameters does dad put around it to not get screwed.
What, exactly, are the detailed terms of the Daddy Scholarship?
Dad will pay, but will have these terms:
(1) kid shows dad respect;
(2) kid stays in regular contact with dad;
(3) kid gets B average;
(4) dad gets grade reports;
(5) get pays for any classes where he/she screws up and has to drop;
(6) kid spends 50% of his time back in the home town, when in town, at dad's place;
(7) dad gets tax deduction, and kid signs paper work (driver licenses, voter registiration, using dads place as official primary abode, anything else), to support dad getting it.
Anything else I'm mssing here?
Tef, you're a subject matter expert on this one -- what else should be on the Daddy Scholarship list?
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