Guys, the goal here isn't to deny support from your children. It's to support them -- on terms you buy into, as a parent, who stays active in their lives, with the children staying connected & respectful to you. If they don't stay connected & active, and allow you to stay engaged in their lives, well, ya know what? You don't owe them a free ride once they hit 18.
Perhaps I am coming from the place where my kids do stay active in my life. And that has been because I have always stayed interested in what they do in their lives. I also come from a state that does require college to be addressed in the decree. As parents, we all should want to see our kids thrive acedemically and socially because it is not only good for our kids but good for the community. Now, I do fully understand when you have a kid that seems to just use a parent as a "money bag". I'm sure that can be frustrating, especially if that money is being used for things more than their academic development. I would caution a parent to be sure to use that "daddy scholarship" in ways that are not manipulative and controlling as the kid can see through that and will possibly resent you for it later in life.
In cases, where the parent does feel like they are being used as a "money bag" I would urge the parent to take a look at themselves as well. Are you supplying the unconditional love that should flow from parent to child? Have you been there for your kids when they needed you? Do you spend too much time thinking about what will make you happy and not enough time with your kids?
Let me explain where I am coming from in the above paragraph. When my D17 started spending more and more time at my house and effectively stopped following the decree I questioned her about her motives. The response I got was "Why would I want to go over there when there is never anyone home". Now, in my case since NJ pays for eighty percent of the college expenses because of the decree well let's just imagine what could have come down if the decree did not cover college expenses.