Need help figuring out where to go next.
My divorce has been final for a year. The time from initial separation to divorce being final was about 4 months. Began dating my ex's best friend within a week of the divorce being final. There have been accusations of infidelity. That relationship has become quite serious and we moved in together about a month ago.
My 14 year old daughter (13 at time of divorce) initially stayed with me on my weekends, then resisted and as a result I gave in as long as she spent time with me on each day of my weekend. This deteriorated to her refusing to see me, then us landing on an agreement that she spends time with me on at least one day during my weekends. Not optimal but not terrible. She refuses to see my mom who lives about 2 miles away.
I learned over the holidays that my ex has been waging a campaign of disparagement against me and against my mother, sharing all of her accusations of infidelity as well as accusations that my mother somehow was complicit in the marriage ending. I learned this after I brought my mother to lunch with my daughter so that we could share presents. Since that lunch my daughter has been very hostile towards me and openly expresses rage towards her grandmother. My ex is completely unresponsive to my requests for help and gloats over my troubles.
I think my daughter needs therapy. My ex hopes that I force my daughter into therapy, even telling my attorney that doing so will cause my daughter to "hate me more".
Not sure where to go. My girlfriend suggests that we may have to break up. I am considering pushing for mandatory therapy for my daughter. I am also thinking about enforcing the parenting plan so that my daughter stays over, though she is extremely vocal that she will hate me if I do.I don't know what to do. Thoughts?