Story time; I had a small health event two days ago and I ignored some of the limited strategy I give here. The strategy I ignored was that I let things that I can not control get me spun up. After about three days of REALLY getting spun up my blood pressure was so high that I was experiencing all of the conditions/symptoms etc of a stroke or a heart attack. NOT GOOD for me at 52. Thankfully I went to the emergency room (yea I know dizzy and driving, but I had years of experience driving impaired; and felt that I was safe enough to drive; however stopping several times to refocus and recognize that I was also trying to talk myself out of going). I ended up checking out as very healthy (once I got the tachometer down to Pinto speed from Bonneville Flats speed)!
So don't let your DGAF meter batteries run low and or not keep it up in all situations towards all contrary things that you can't control. Easier said than done I know.
The forum, our members and mods, and recovery have taught me that you can use that DGAF meter on ALL situations, people, places and things. I have taken a few days off, rested, and now can't stand it anymore; so headed into do some part time cat herding at me pt gig.
BUT I am trying to be more in tune with WHEN I am getting spun up; work issue comes up, I say not my problem. Or I think "how important is it?" If it is "Why is it important?". I also try to think of whether not this is "my" issue or problem. I am not a person who takes what I consider in my own opinion "fools" lightly. This also effects me out in public as well and not just limited to the workplace or personal life either. Another area I need help on (teaching folks driving skills, or fishing etiquette at the lake, common sense at the grocery store and on and on; you guys who suffer from this know what I am talking about; and I am seeking counsel (counseling and the Great Counselor).
I wanted to post this in a new thread because I think we talk here about the DGAF meter in our relationships with our spouses, STBX's, EX's and our children, but not so much about applying it to ALL areas of life. Yea I know don't waste your post its common sense right; well it didn't make it down into my stubborn brain six days ago when the spin up started festering.
I am really enjoying grand taco's Operation Chin Back thread and felt that by the grace of our generous hosts allowing us to post miscellany topics that bleed over to helping guys in the divorce arena. I am so grateful for the hosts and the mods (and their patience with me) and the ability to use the forum to help guys (and ultimately their kids [and spouses whether they admit it or not]).
Okay off to herd some felines as I can't stand resting here another ten minutes; and yes friends and foes I will be using my DGAF meter and until I get prescribed some high blood pressure meds; using the skills learned here and in recovery to NOT allow myself to get my motor running hot and risking overheating!
To our praying and thought sending members here I will tell you I appreciate them in advance.
Even now I was hesitating to post this and now its a very important topic because you CAN worry and fus yourself into a high blood pressure aneurysm or worse.