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Remarrying

Unread postby Chasbo » Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:13 am

So it looks like a remarriage may be on the cards for me at some point in the next 2 or 3 years.

The woman in question has a successful business, a beach house etc. She wants a prenuptial agreement. That is music to my ears, because I want one as well. We are in a similar financial situation.

I have also suggested we see a financial planner so we can work out how we will handle finances going forward. She hasn't objected. One issue I used to have is I am used to paying for everything. I am trying to get out of it. She paid for dinner last time. Definitely progress.

Any further suggestions are appreciated to safeguard me and her- we each have 2 kids. Last time round I paid for everything and never spoke about money. It wasn't a good situation and I won't repeat it.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:20 am

Ugh. Why this forum?

Perhaps instead of a financial planner, you can see a therapist for why you personally can't set boundaries. The only thing to plan financially is complete independence.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby lovingfatherof2 » Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:38 am

I have some honest questions.

Why get married again?
What difference would it make being married or not?
What is the value in it for either of you?
What would it change for either of you once it is done?

These are questions I ask myself when I think about marrying again, I know what the answers are for me.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Mon Mar 06, 2017 9:40 am

Congratulations!
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby afc » Mon Mar 06, 2017 10:03 am

Congrats! I married again and I like it. Situation a lot like yours. We did a prenup because she wanted it. I make more but she invested far better so she has more. And since we both have grown kids, we want to make sure things are right when we kick off.

I'd take this issue off these boards though. You'll get a lot of "you're effin CRAZY" and quite frankly, it just doesnt belong here as a topic. There has to be number websites out there for this. Save yourself the barbs and find one of those
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Mon Mar 06, 2017 10:06 am

it just doesnt belong here as a topic.


Its a divorce question on the topic of divorce. Its perfectly appropriate.

Those who are upset at the question and need a safe space should refrain from participation in the thread.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Mar 06, 2017 10:12 am

Its a divorce question on the topic of divorce. Its perfectly appropriate.
By that qualification, the poster is divorced, virtually anything is an appropriate topic.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Mon Mar 06, 2017 10:14 am

Management will judge whether the topics are appropriate.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby Chaos » Mon Mar 06, 2017 10:23 am

Congratulations. How old are your kids again? Blended family's are difficult, laying the groundwork well in advance would probably be beneficial.

Fatheroffour wrote:Management will judge whether the topics are appropriate.


That's obnoxious.
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Re: Remarrying

Unread postby RC611V » Mon Mar 06, 2017 12:27 pm

Congrats from me too :P

I don't make a ton of money but the way I was raised makes it very difficult for me to not expect to try to provide every tangible resource for the relationship. It sucks. But I also have made some progress in that area and when a girl offers to pay, I no longer object and insist my card is taken by the server :lol:
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