This is for those who are starting out and just want to settle to get it over with. Maybe you are seeing signs of NJ who poisons the children. I will share some instance where the children paid the price of not having 2 loving parent. This is hard to write for me as it brings back emotions.
Joe Cancer and I regularly shot our handguns at the club. Joe had a collection of manly handguns, few that Dirty Harry would be switching out to on a heartbeat. We never planned ahead more than a few days in advance. Joe was a involved member of the church and lead bible study at his home many a nights. Joe had 4 daughters from his first marriage in Texas. I did not see Joe for many weeks, I tried to catch his son at school but did not see him too. I was shocked to learn that Joe had died from brain cancer, all in a few months. I found out details about his services and attended it with my mother and aunt.
The obituary was short. I skimmed through it to find out the date/time to set it up on my calendar. Later at home I was reading through it and I was puzzled what the following line meant " and survived by 5 daughters, of which 3 he has given to God..."
Many thoughts went through my mind, first was an episode from X-files, where they sacrificed at the alter and canalized by the flock?
I did not want to ask his son as it would be rude in such times. I sat with their extended family downstairs for the meal and one of them pointed out his oldest daughter from 1st wife. She was the only D from 1st wife there. I was told the other 3 Ds - had no contact with him since the divorce.
For the next few minutes all I could think about was the look on Joe's face I saw many times.
John Cornell - John is a retired Lt. Colonel, he and I trout fish and we ran a few federal projects together. John's and I never talk about our personal lives much. One morning we had to sit at the airport for 4 hours due to crew issues with our flight out to DC.
John announced that his youngest daughter had made contact with him. I was like, I did not know you had a daughter!
We chatted for nearly an hour, well it felt like an hour. John was nervous, John was not the regular John I have seen till now.
John has 3 daughters from his first wife. A wife he married in the Army when he was much younger. A wife who was cheating on him. He tried to make mends with her, he tried his best to make it work. But she kept cheating on him and up then it happened, she accused John of everything under the sun and since then John has had no contact with his 3 Ds.
D3 had just turned 18 and wanted to reach out to him. I could tell that is meant a lot to him, I could sense the happiness.
As a father who has to deal with NJ who daily engages in poisoning the minor children, I ask for God for courage and patience to work 2x harder to grow my relationship with my children.
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on Sat Feb 04, 2017 7:45 am, edited 1 time in total.
“A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband, while a man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.”