Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby Trevor » Wed May 23, 2012 3:37 pm

RE: the upper decker, why not make it fun by eating a bunch of black jellybeans first; this would add visual appeal (specifically, a sinister green) to the olfactory pleasure you'll be creating.

Or you can just put in a lot of red dye in the tank so that when she flushes there might be a skipped heartbeat or two. Don't do that if she's pregnant, though, that would be inhumane.
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Tue Jul 16, 2013 11:10 am

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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby RustBeltCrooner » Tue Jul 16, 2013 11:57 am

One I can add is the turn off the heat or the AC when you and the kids leave the house. Saves money too.

Some of these are easily defeated.

Separate bathrooms.

Cancelling cable: She turned it back on in her name, got the most expensive plan, and made me pay for it through family court.
Land line phone: same deal.

I stopped doing housecleaning and she just hired a maid service, and, once again, stuck me with the bill through family court.
Ditto for mowing the lawn. She hired a fancy landscaper and family court thought that was "reasonable" (their word).

Meanwhile, she did her best to drive me out:
1) Nonstop criticising/demanding/belittling/mocking
2) Turning up the heat to inferno and the AC to refridgerate
3) Eating all my food
4) Making the house a pigsty in between maid visits
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby Here_We_Go » Tue Jul 16, 2013 12:04 pm

I would call and cancel it every month, and remove equipment. some bathrooms electrical sockets are "'daisy chained" to another room. "test" it and she can't blow dry her hair in the bathroom. to nut jobs that is a "big deal"
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby RustBeltCrooner » Tue Jul 16, 2013 12:21 pm

Once a utility is her name, you can't cancel it.

If you sabotage the electrical system in your home, she will call for repairs and guess who will be stuck with the bill?
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Tue Jul 16, 2013 12:24 pm

There is always a reason why you can't.

Following the philosophy of "yeah , but..." you should just give them whatever they want from the outset.
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby RustBeltCrooner » Mon Jul 22, 2013 4:07 pm

Fatheroffour wrote:There is always a reason why you can't.

Following the philosophy of "yeah , but..." you should just give them whatever they want from the outset.


Maybe. My NJ was very crafty and worked full time from home, which gave her home field advantage. She is far nuttier and far meaner than I could ever be. In the effort to drive each other out of the house, I lost.

You other guys might have better luck with these tactics. But don't sabotage your own electrical system.
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby stretchkr » Mon Jul 06, 2015 3:12 pm

one of the few topics on there that make me smile.
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby Finz » Mon Jul 06, 2015 6:17 pm

Thanks for the bump. This was good for a few chuckles.
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Re: Advice on making the home uncomfortable for the stbx...

Unread postby BGJR71 » Mon Jul 06, 2015 9:34 pm

Sorry to hear about your situation, I have spent two years preparing for my divorce only to have her stall constantly, anyway my suggestion to you is forget trying to be invisible, she is using you to pay for her to start a new life which does not include YOU!! What you need to do is wake her up that she is going to have to take care of herself and pay for herself. The only way to do that is to turn off the money train! You need to start saving money for you and your defense and to fight for the custody of your children. Be calm when you talk to her, polite even when she pisses you off, you have too or she'll have you removed from the house. Only leave the utilities on that you absolutely need, start pass coding everything like computer access, flies joint accounts and open new in your name only, you need to do this fast and quietly. Good luck my friend and hang in there!
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