RC211V wrote:The lawyer I’m thinking about told me he doesn’t think joint custody is good - he thinks kids should stay with their mom in a primary custody arrangement
Fatheroffour wrote:I'm betting most good defense attorneys believe murderers should go to prison.
RC211V wrote: - Have taken every available opportunity to have kids more than 21% in temp orders during last year, which has been 43% of overnights (to my knowledge in CA overnights are the critical factor)
What are you using to track your overnights? A calendar? Journal? Whatever, I think this would be the perfect place for a big colorful pie chart to that shows how much more time you've actually spent with the kids vs. what you were granted in the temp orders. Maybe frame your argument that you jump at every chance to see them, even if it means changing your schedule or dropping plans. If you are at all out war with your ex, go ahead and point out how often she gave up her time with them.
- Active at schools with kids - volunteer for fund raisers, PTA member, never missed an open house/parent night/school performance, familiar and friendly with teachers, principal, kids' friends and other parents.
Do you still have any papers that they handed out at these meetings, that would prove you were there? Any pictures of you & kiddo with the teacher on field trips? Any notes thanking you for helping with the classroom party, etc?
- I've been the one to take kids to dentist and doctor multiple times in the last year (not positive but I think I've taken them to every one).
Can you run a report through your insurance website that would list all their appointments? Have any papers/reciepts for prescriptions and things that they only give out in person?
- I have completed most necessary documents for school, handled enrollment for kid in kindergarten, got medical/dental relase forms and field trip forms completed, etc.
Is your handwriting significantly different from your STBX's? Do you have copies of those forms?
- Have complete home for both kids with their own beds, complete wardrobe and toys. If their other home disappeared there would be no scrambling for anything to care for them.
Get pictures of their rooms, play areas, toys, artwork on the fridge, sidewalk chalk colored all over the porch, or basically anything that shows what a kid-friendly home you have. My lawyer came to visit my home & was impressed, and recommended this to me. I printed multiple pictures on regular paper to get the point across without unnecessary paperwork.
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