Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Tue Nov 21, 2017 12:17 am

radar_boy wrote:Divorced in CO Dec 2012.
Sounds like divorce was filed BEFORE Jan 1, 2014, when Colorado's new alimony law took effect. For you, CO's old alimony law applies. From what I understand, the new law is not retroactive.

Q: Did you settle out of court??.....or did your case go to trial??

radar_boy wrote:"Spousal maintenance shall be modifiable."
That means your ex can have the alimony provision "revisited" and her claim for alimony reinstated.

radar_boy wrote:Any idea what she can do at this point?
It depends. Is she fully self-supporting?? Has she remarried??

radar_boy wrote:.....do I need to do at this point to show that the debt is discharged here in CO?
To get specifics, you should probably talk to an attorney. The real question is, "Now that alimony payments are about to cease, will she be able to support herself at her current standard of living??""

As far as your ex is concerned, you should maintain radio silence. The last thing you want to do is tip your hand and wake the sleeping giant.

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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby Trevor » Tue Nov 21, 2017 8:19 am

And here comes Trev pondering the question "why did the guy wait until he'd already made the last payment before wondering what might be necessary to shut down the SS train?"
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby massdad1234 » Tue Nov 21, 2017 10:03 am

maybe OP is willing to buy a couple months of silence in order to make sure he dot's I's and crosses T's?

OP - are things business professonal between you and the ex? Any reason to expect if you fulfilled your obligations she would believe she is entitled to never ending spousal?
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby Havalu7 » Tue Nov 21, 2017 2:01 pm

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Great thread BTW gents :lol:
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Tue Nov 21, 2017 2:17 pm

massdad1234 wrote: Any reason to expect if you fulfilled your obligations she would believe she is entitled to never ending spousal?
The answer to that lies in Colorado's old alimony statute(s). Those were the days when alimony awards were often brutal, especially in terms of duration (we're talking life sentence).

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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby radar_boy » Tue Nov 21, 2017 9:14 pm

OP here

1. I've paid promptly, I've paid, on occasion more than required; all documented
2. We have not spoken in over 10 years, she refuses to be an adult of any kind. She has frustrated all 5 kids with her immature behavior.
3. Her lawyer requested $4,500 per month as permanent. The judge dismissed that and awarded 5 years but left it "modifiable."

Because of the maintenance, I'm locked into a bad job. I have no savings for retirement and own no property. I'm afraid that this could keep me poor until I die.

Do not marry, live communally, or even "like" someone in CO, you'll financially regret it.
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Wed Nov 22, 2017 12:15 am

Is she fully self-supporting?? Has she remarried??
^^^ The solution to your dilemma lies in your answer to these simple questions.

radar_boy wrote:3. Her lawyer requested $4,500 per month as permanent. The judge dismissed that and awarded 5 years but left it "modifiable."
Count your blessings, Bro. you could've gotten Colorado's life sentence.

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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby massdad1234 » Wed Nov 22, 2017 7:13 am

OP - you need to have a game plan, what is it?
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby BartSimpson » Wed Nov 22, 2017 9:53 am

It’s hookers and blow with the money he’s saving.

STOP! OP doesn’t have a problem. Why create one. You guys bored or something?
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Re: Last Spousal Maintenance payment made - now what?

Unread postby dad2grls » Wed Nov 22, 2017 1:43 pm

I don't get why you're "locked into a bad job because of the maintenance you're paying".

You just wrote that- even though you're done with maintenance.

You're concerned that if you make more she'll come back for more? So what, you'll still end up with more and there's savings on the tax deductable support as well.

As far as your advice to "Not marry someone in CO because you'll financially regret it".

Yes and no.

That advice applies to getting married ANYWHERE, but it only applies if the person you're marrying has less income and assets than you do.
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