Starting to date, ready but nervous

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Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby Whiskey619 » Sat Apr 15, 2017 7:34 am

I had a really hard time after the divorce, and ended up unemployed for write a while. I would have gone some dating during that time but thought I being able to pay for a date, and condoms, would be a good idea. Now I'm worried for a few reasons 1) I'm in my 30s and moist of the ladies my age still want t their own kids, 2) it's been 15 years since my last first date, and 3) it's been two years since the last time I got laid, so I feel like ill perform like a born again virgin when those opportunities come along.

You guys have any thoughts, within or other ideas you can post my way?

Thangs for the help.
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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby BartSimpson » Sat Apr 15, 2017 7:47 am

Do you think a divorce forum should discuss dating when there are so many dating forums already?
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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby JimRockford » Sat Apr 15, 2017 11:35 am

I guess you could start watching porn and take good notes. I also hope you can afford the condoms now, or maybe you could make a deal with your date upfront, that you will buy dinner if she buys the condoms. Don't forget to tell her that although you may be out of practice, that you have put yourself back up to speed with all that porn that you have been watching.

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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby spritom » Thu Apr 20, 2017 5:33 pm

I think of Richard Petty....in the Daytona 500...1988
Here's the video (20 seconds)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnYk4Hfzs_c
Then 5 minutes after getting out of the car is it wise for Richard Petty to say "Yeah! Let's jump right in another car and race some more today!"
Not so much.

You were in one of Life's car crashes,
...and not a small one either.
Check your bearings - Get your land-legs back
Be comfortable with just yourself for a bit
It's a fantastic time to put extra focus on being a great dad
It also hones your wacko-radar
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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby Klarson27 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 9:11 pm

JimRockford wrote:I guess you could start watching porn and take good notes. I also hope you can afford the condoms now, or maybe you could make a deal with your date upfront, that you will buy dinner if she buys the condoms. Don't forget to tell her that although you may be out of practice, that you have put yourself back up to speed with all that porn that you have been watching.

Good Luck!


Couldn't disagree more about taking notes from porn..

Horrible advice man!!
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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby lionel2013 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 9:33 pm

2) it's been 15 years since my last first date, and 3) it's been two years since the last time I got laid, so I feel like ill perform like a born again virgin when those opportunities come along.


Take it nice and slow, it'll come back to you, it's like riding a bike :-) I know I too was very nervous the first time after, it had been four long years since I had had sex.

But now ... if you need to think about being able to pay for condoms, are you sure you're in a position to star dating again [no pun intended]?

Also: do you have any kids?
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Re: Starting to date, ready but nervous

Unread postby whatever_works » Sun Sep 10, 2017 7:44 am

Klarson27 wrote:Horrible advice man!!


It is called sarcasm.

lionel2013 wrote:it's like riding a bike


Er, actually riding a whorse is more like it. And I know how to spell horse.
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