OK, so I know this is a Men's Divorce Form and I am a Mom, however, before any of you get upset, I really do want to hear an opinion from a mans side of the divorce. I ask my now husband, but I am sure his opinions and answers a bit biased. I hope you will answer with thought and honesty.
My ex, in the custody agreement, gets our son every other weekend, certain holidays depending on the year, and 6 weeks during the summer. Pretty standard. However, we agreed early on that our son needed more time with him than that, so he also goes there on Wednesday nights. Last week, my now husband and I learned of a local Tae Kwon Do class and my son decided he wanted to try it. So he gets 4 "trial classes" for free. After the first one, he decided he loved it! The down fall is that class is on Mondays and Wednesdays. We learned that it is a come-as-you-can class, not mandatory. We discussed that with my son that Wednesdays might be out for him to go because that is his time with his dad as well as his dad living out of town.
Today, I mentioned the class to my ex, who then got upset with me for not giving him a heads up. Well, I didn't have much of one either but I can kind of see where he is coming from since it is a Monday. But it is also his birthday, so I didn't want him to feel like he had to spend that time in a Tau Kwon Do class that I sent my son to once, when he had other plans. I was doing my best to be respectful of his time. He may have sat through it with him but I didn't want him to feel obligated to do so since it is still just trial classes.
Anyway, my ex decided that since this class is on Wednesday, we would just switch days. Fine with me, however, the day he wants to switch to is the one day that my now husband, has the afternoon off to spend time with my son. They both enjoy this time very much and I don't want them to loose that. I asked my ex if he would considered another day. Is it wrong of me to ask this of him? I am trying to give my son time with both his father and his step-dad. I know that my son will be disappointed if he looses the time with his step-dad, and he is still getting the time with his dad, just a different day.
Opinions please. How would you feel about this?