In regards to any action you should take in retaliation to your Ex, I would say let it lie. Do you think she would stop doing this sort of thing if she actually got pinched? Or would it just amp up the crazy even more because now she feels she has to "beat" you?
If you never let her know its bugs you, or has taken time out of your day, she will get the impression that it's having zero effect. Hopefully at that point she just lays off, because if she can't use these tactics to engage you.....well what's the point?
I wish that were true. I do not engage. At all. Ever. Any emails I send are strictly informational and from the "I" perspective and rare. This upsets her, because she tries so hard to get me to get into it with her. I will not.
She has a history of this dating back to her childhood. She has accused every prominent man in her life, including her father (bogus accusations of sexual abuse). Her mother did the same. It is literally in her DNA. "Beating" me will always be her game, at any cost, including that of our kids. There is exactly zero concern for collateral damage.
As I told the police officer, I *do not* want any drama. I go 10 miles out of my way, twice a day when I have the kids, just to keep from driving down the road that connects to the road that eventually leads to the street where she lives. I carry the MP3 at all times.
Prior to the divorce, she called the police and had police reports created but told the police not to contact me - was adamant about that and it is documented in the reports. She is under the impression that our D11 will be legally allowed to pick a parent next year (not true) and it is my opinion that she is ramping up for that drama sometime next year.
This woman is extremely calculating, which is not to suggest "smart". Her mother did precisely the same to her father, so she's just following the family playbook.
I don't let her know I'm bugged by it. I haven't discussed with the kids, haven't communicated with her about it at all. I'm still radio silent and plan to continue to be, and that's part of the problem. Because I will not engage she will "force" me into action if she can.
I don't want to file reports and get tangled up in all that drama, but jeesh there must be something that can be done? The officer told me he was going to attempt to question her in such a way as to allow for the false police report charge. I could tell he was less than pleased and that he could see this whole thing is a bunch of <feces> on a stick.
Oh and I did purchase a camera for my home which will be pointed directly at my car so as to track my comings and goings in the future. It should arrive tomorrow.