massdad1234 wrote:dad calls mom a pyscho yet calls the cops on her for being late/missing drop off? Instead of flipping it and having more time with children, dad inserts more drama and then claims to be the victim.
Dude, this guy already got raked over the coals for that incident in his other thread and has said from now on he will just obtain receipts with time stamps on them from nearby stores. Let's move on.
Thanks. To the others, I have been doing precisely and exactly what the police, counselors, friends, etc have recommended I do. Sometimes the tough love here is a bit over the top, but as you note I got the 'what for' in another thread and I get it.
If I'm guilty of having participated then so be it. I allowed this behavior (tolerated) for too long - I did so because I knew this is where we'd end up. I can correct that. But to suggest that I've created this is short-sighted. My ex has a history of this behavior with me, her first husband, her siblings, her family on both sides - accused her own father of sexual abuse - I just didn't discover these things until it was far too late. And I own that. It's on me.
I am now in a situation where I have to manage this behavior - or not manage it as the case may be. I've called the cops numerous times since the divorce. Each time she has another story - often arguing with the police about what the decree states, even railing on about the Custody Evaluator to her attny and CCing me while she did so. She is out of control, and that isn't my creation - I'm trying to protect myself and just keep my distance, but keeping my distance factors in as not getting any response is as likely to spark this behavior as responding. I feel very much like I can't win for losing.