During the separation, the ex's car had balding tires and she was going to drive 3 states away with my son to see Mr. W. She said that she did not have enough money for new tires but was going anyway. Tires for the car were over 300 each, I offered to buy the tires, she said yes, but responded with a catch. She wanted to involve both attorneys to craft a stipulation that the tires were a gift and that I could not ever seek reimbursement, nor would they count as income. Knowing her, I also knew that she would send it back and forth several times to raise fees and that the stipulation would end up costing as much as the tires.
I then called my brother, a long time tech who owns his own shop and is also very knowledgeable about high end tires. He told me that given the time of the year with no weather conditions expected, as long as the tires were just worn but the structure was not compromised, not to worry about it.
She then later asked about the stipulation, and I told her to forget it. The next day, she somehow had come up with a set of new tires on her own, and no Mr. W did not buy them.
Deciding to go forward with a divorce is kind of like joining a brotherhood. However, it is a brotherhood that you really don't want to join.