tdever wrote:But i do know this, there is no judge or third party that truly knows what is in the best interests of my children.
Nonsense. You have one's person's perspective on what's best for a child. Judges see thousands of cases and therefore have a better perspective than you do. Your kids are not objectively viewed as the unique little snowflakes that you think they are; nor is your case in any way special. To think otherwise is to ignore the obvious bias on your part, and to render yourself ineffective in arguing your case.
tdever wrote:some of you all think that it is ok that one day your ex, decides hey I don't want to talk to you anymore and I am not going to give you updates as what your children are doing. Well I neither agree nor think that it is ok that she hide behind a attorney.
Tough < feces >. It's not up to you how she chooses to communicate with you. This is America, we have these special little freedoms, the first ten of which come to mind often. Second point is that your decision to live so far away puts you at an informational disadvantage, and you're foolish for expecting her (or anyone else) to take up the slack that you introduced into the equation. You can fix this on you want to sack up and fix it. But it seems clear that you prefer to continue down the path of charade and dance, and aren't happy that we're not clicking our heels and snapping our fingers to the rhythm. We're not your personal echo chamber.
tdever wrote:The best interests of my children are to see there parents be able to get along and coparent and put all the past in the past.
Wrong. It's in their best interest to have two engaged parents in their lives who are around and showing up at soccer matches and cello recitals and scouting trips and school lunchroom surprise lunches and homework help and holding them during their inoculations and teaching them how to clean themselves and on and on.
Living so far away gives license to the next schmuck who gets in their mother's panties who gets to do that stuff more often than you do. And here you sit justifying. Interested in changing that dynamic, or to remain bellyaching about the legal impotence resulting directly from your choice to remove yourself from their proximity?