OP these guys here will help you.
You have some of the heavy hitters here trying to help you bro (newbie myself here).
Toughen up your skin and take the sarcasm with a grain of salt and get down to the issues. Even guys here whom YOU (meaning even I) perceive that don't like you personally will help you because the goal of the forum is the best outcome for the kids involved.
KISS principal in effect and after this is over and the dust settles even you can become a highly
paid volunteer here and help shovel the gravel. Don't let humor and sarcasm deter you from taking full advantage of the very expensive and costly strategy given here.
You will succeed for your kids if that is the goal you have in mind. Elsewise the sarcasm and humor will increase in spades.
Focus on your kids best outcome and join the effort to help other guys out; once you get past the no nonsense grit that sometimes comes with shaping gents into fine tuned kid helping machines. There are also guys here that can benefit from my and your situations that don't have kids if
they just apply the tactics given here to get the best outcome for themselves in a childless separation.
Sack up and stick around brotato