Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby ForumVenter 1 » Wed Mar 01, 2017 2:29 pm

Valid points gamingdad

Movies for myself, I wait until Netflix. Movies for D, I like to get out there early.

I am not a big fan of crowded movies/parks/etc, however, a several years ago a new theater opened up near me. A big I-Max theater that provides food service direct to the seating.

You can pre-order tickets along with an assigned seat! It is great. Avoids the long ticket lines and removes the possibility of sitting in the front row. I highly recommend it for Logan if you have a similar theater nearby.
OH - Residential parent of D after a long distance move by Ex. If your child(ren) aren't a priority, you will have no chance at gaining custody.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby RockyCali » Wed Mar 08, 2017 1:04 am

Find a short list of other movies or activities you can do.

You: "D6, would you like to watch (child-appropriate movie not called Beauty and the Beast) or would you rather (alternate movie or activity befitting a 6-year old) next week?"

I wouldn't even reference Beauty and the Beast. If she brings it up, just say "your mom and I both thought it would be nice for you to watch that with her."

What you didn't say:
"Your mom and I talked about this."
"I really like it when your mom takes my ideas."
"I'm really overthinking this."

What you ARE showing D6:
"I value you, time with you, and making memories with you."

D6 isn't likely to remember this 6 years from now. Unless it becomes a negative experience. Then it will stand out. DOn't do that. What you ARE doing is laying a foundation for years to come that the actual movie, the museum, the park, the destination is far less important than the journey. And that WILL stand out.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby Chaos » Wed Mar 08, 2017 1:15 am

One parent isn't entitled to call dibs on an activity without an agreement with the other parent. This will come up every time a new Disney or Pixar movie comes out forever unless you come to an agreement, or decide to ignore her. If it works once, she'll assume it's a winning strategy.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby gamingdad » Wed Mar 08, 2017 10:35 am

Logan, awesome movie. Kiddo liked it. If he saw it with mom, he would have watched it twice. I helped explain things that mom couldn't. He could have fun watching it with her too. Either way he would have been happy. Achievements leveled up +1 for good memories.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby steelmark » Thu Mar 09, 2017 2:02 pm

What age for Logan? My s10 wants to see it, but if its Deadpool kind of R then no thanks for kiddo.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby gamingdad » Thu Mar 09, 2017 2:18 pm

Kiddo is 13. I still won't let him watch Deadpool (only because of the sex related material, but the blood and violence is fine).
Finally being able to see what his claws are capable of (I've known for years) is what makes it an R rated movie.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby afc » Thu Mar 09, 2017 2:21 pm

Always been curious about that. Why is violence okay and sex stuff not?

I let my kids see American Pie before violent Rs.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Thu Mar 09, 2017 2:25 pm

Murder is OK. Sex is bad.

Pretty dumb to me.
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby gamingdad » Thu Mar 09, 2017 4:08 pm

I think kids generally are exposed to violence at a much younger age then they are to sex. The sex scene in the movie with Stallone and stone, where he's an assassin, that's manageable. Deadpool getting pegged by his girlfriend, not so much.
We play call of duty together, watched saving Private Ryan, but I'm not gonna sit him down to watch Caligula
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Re: Ex made D promise, should I discuss with Ex?

Unread postby Mock Turtle » Thu Mar 09, 2017 10:14 pm

Fatheroffour wrote:Murder is OK. Sex is bad.
That's how I knew it was time for divorce.
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