Phoenix853 wrote:Why not wait until her attorney is taken off the case.
Request a transcript from the courts.
Get any and all documents related to your divorce and sift through them with a fine toothed comb.
I'm assuming your wondering about the 401K or am I missing something?
If there is no mention to her taking all of your 401K or it wasn't filed then move on with your life and I'm sure she will try and revisit this down the road with no record to back her up.
Maybe Ex owes her attorney and is hiding from her. Maybe Ex's attorney isn't getting paid so neither will your Ex.
Is that what your asking about? Or am I off base on this?
No, I apologize if I wasn't clear - it all gets mixed up in my head. I just want it over at this point. My fight was for 50/50. She can have the money - I'll make more. There isn't much anyway. It's not worth fighting for, and that's what I told her attorney when she and I were "negotiating" the financial aspect of the settlement (separate from the actual divorce).
I obtained the minutes yesterday. Cost me $6.50. It is noted that we had an agreement and that her attny was to draw it up. This happened and I signed - gave them everything they wanted, pretty much, because the NJ was arguing for the sake of the fight. There was nothing left to be gained beyond pride and I'm long past that.
So now I have the document, signed and ready, except the NJs signature is missing so her lawyer couldn't file it, and her lawyer couldn't get NJ to respond (even though she got all she wanted) so here we are. It is most unfortunate that her attorney didn't clue me in, but I guess she didn't have to...
Her attorney asked me to wait before I went down to talk with family court services about what I can do. I told her I would. She told me she would file with the court today, so I'm assuming I'll get the official notification next week and I can go from there, I'm just not sure what's about to happen and I'm looking for some insight into that since I am not represented by an attorney at this time.
I should also say that this is, in my opinion, a money grab. The ex wants me to keep paying the higher support figure. That's why she didn't sign and has been hiding from her attorney, and not because she didn't get what she wanted. She does this because she's passive/aggressive (IMO among other more troubling things) and needs to keep this going - needs to keep punishing - needs to keep exacting revenge. Anyway that's not relevant. My DGAF meter, as it's called here, is pegged on low.