So it has been over 3 years divorced for me and I wanted to share an update to my friends on here.
I had a short marriage (2 years) with one D2 (5 now). We settled on 50/50 30 minutes before trial although I pay max CS in NY.
My Ex and I had a tough relationship for the first 2 years, but have settled down nicely since then. We more co-parent now than parallel parent, which is greatly helping our daughter. I never thought we would be doing that, but we are. She has given me extra time when I have had family in town and on various occasions when I have asked. I have done the same for her.
On a personal side, I got married last year to a wonderful woman and we just welcomed our first daughter together 2 weeks ago. My ex picked out some nice clothes with our D5 for us. We both called and thanked her. My wife brought an amazing S5, so I now am a proud parent of 3.
Life couldn't be better for me and I owe most of that to the great help in this community. I urge and encourage all new guys who think there is no life after divorce to take a deep breath and realize that there certainly is! Keep you head up and always maintain your dignity no matter how tough it is.