Tom Kirkpatrick wrote:
monte_carlo wrote:She's a psychiatrist.....she encourages him to be himself.
NJ is more friend than parent. "Mommy's here, Darling. You don't hafta listen that mean ol' daddy any more. That's why we left him."
Sad, but definitely possible. Maybe not those exact words...
Fatheroffour wrote:Personally, if you don't suspect drug use, I'd look into depression or other distractions before I'd make drug use accusations.
I had a similar experience with a teen last year and it wasn't drugs.
How's his life otherwise? Same peer group? New girlfriend? Withdrawn? What's new going on in his life.
Did you post your experience here? Link?
He's always been on the geeky side and thus quiet. He does very well on his tests, mostly As, but fails to do his homework and group projects. His worse subject is Language Arts. And that's funny because her reads tons of books, and while spending time on his iPod 24/7 (if he can) he prefers to read books the traditional way. 2 years ago I found 3 pages of "laws of society" in his view; not a HW, but something he decided to do - come up with a law system that is good for every body. His got 2 or 3 friends, and his step brother is his best friend, which btw was on top of my list for potential drug introduction when you guys brought it up... No girlfriend, withdrawn yes, but he's always been like that.
Two days ago, I took him out for a burger and coke and he didn't say anything the whole time. It's like - do you want this or that, he replies "either". I've been looking to get an older Monte Carlo and restore it, and I found one in the area and wanted to show him the pictures, his response was "I don't really care" but not in a rude way, just extremely honest.
I really believe the whole "forcing him" to get good grades is bothering him in a way that he believes I am doing something wrong as in it's bad to force people against their will... if you guys understand what I'm talking about.