Though many know what I went through, here's a quick refresher of my deal:
Almost 2yrs since things were final. I am in OH and am the Residential Parent of D6 during the school year. Ex lives in MO and gets D a majority of the summer and time during Holiday breaks. No CS, but Ex has to pay half for any extra-curricular things and half of Med/Dental bills over $100. Having CS would help me out a bit, but I am getting by okay without it.
Through OFW, Ex let me know she is moving back to OH possibly over the summer (along with husband, baby and another baby on the way). She said to let her know if I have any thoughts. I just replied "That's great news! Obviously, we'll need to restructure the parenting plan. But we can discuss that as things progress."
It is great news for my daughters sake. Though, her moving back will kind of upset the apple cart. Assuming she moves close to my town, what type of parenting plan should I propose? My local County standard plan is Weds evenings, every other weekend and then alternate every 2wks in the summer?
Prior to her moving, we followed a 2-2-3 schedule on our own. Going back and forth so frequent and often wasn''t always the best, but it worked. Though school wasn't a factor then. Now that D is in school, I'm not sure if that same schedule would work. I want to be fair, but I want D to have a nice routine during the school week.
Also, I am hesitant in moving to a 50/50 type plan share. Knowing Ex and what all could be behind the decision to move back here, I'd like to keep the parenting time status quo very much in my favor should court come up again for whatever reason. And after 2yrs of litigation and still paying on my near $100k lawyer debt, should I seek CS at this time? The reason for courts involvement was because of her decision to move to MO. She filed bankruptcy and didn't pay her lawyers. So it feels like I just funded her little venture to live back in MO for a few years. Getting CS could assist me in paying those bills. Any thoughts?
OH - Residential parent of D5 after a long distance move by Ex. If your child(ren) aren't a priority, you will have no chance at gaining custody.