Outis wrote:There are a couple of key issues that I want to quickly address before I end my participation here.
Why end your participation here? This is an important issue. Kids are suffering and so are Dads.
The first sign of trouble is accepting PAS, while touting Dr Childress who denounces it.
I think you have missed the point. Dr. Childress denounces PAS because it is difficult to diagnose, and expensive and time consuming to prove. The whole point is that Dr. Childress uses very specific diagnostic criteria, which he painstakingly goes over in his video series. He explains that parental alienation is actually easy to diagnose, provided the mental health provider has training and understanding on how to do it.
By the way, it is obvious to me that you haven't watched his videos or read his literature, other than perhaps a cursory skim through. He is very thorough in his explanations, overcoming all of your argument rather easily.
The second is rigid adherence to a protocol that doesn't exist; Dr. Childress has merely offered guidelines to treatment.
The protocol absolutely exists. Again you've revealed that you haven't watched the videos nor have you read the materials. I have to wonder why you are so committed to your position when you don't even have all the information.
The third is a constant focus on the ex. The diagnostic standards are for the child, as is the treatment. But every post continues to be about the ex.
Parental alienation is child abuse. Dr. Childress minces no words about this. Furthermore, there is no counter to this type of child abuse other than to take the children away from the abuser. The only other conceivable possibility would be for the abuser to stop their abuse. That ain't gonna happen with these people, in fact their abuse almost always gets worse over time, not better.
There are more, but these are what I'd consider the Big 3. There is a plethora of information about Parental Alienation available. There is also a plethora of information debunking PAS, including how it has been used as a weapon by fathers to evict mothers from the lives of children. Funny how that's your goal here and you accept PAS and Amy Baker.
Ding ding ding, alarm bell!!!!! The feminist domestic violence shelter playbook.
Finally, there are key pieces missing. Namely, professionals and attempts at problem solving that are less severe than supervised time. Supervised parenting time is one of the most severe tools the court has at its disposal. Under Hoot's "protocol", why not issue supervised time whenever a child is less than jubilant about seeing one parent
Again, Dr. Childress goes over this in great detail in his series. He explains that the child parent bond is natural and always present, even in cases where the parent is obviously
substandard. If the child doesn't want to see one parent for one reason or another, it's a sure sign that child is being alienated. This alienation is child abuse. The only solutions are to remove the child from the abuser, or for the abuser to stop abusing the child (which ain't gonna happen).