Total attorney's fees - just north of $40K. $45K if you include the money spent at the beginning of this whole thing. I got an attorney as soon as the divorce topic came up, and had to deal with a number of things early on. Spending was zero for a number of years, then once I filed, it was about $20K to deal with the TPO, PL and temp custody hearings, then another $20K to get everything settled.
As I've posted in the main forum, I limited SS to a much shorter time and amount than it could have been had it gone to court, got a more favorable disposition of assets (2/3 in my favor for house and pension), control of the kids' 529/UTMA accounts, and primary custody/residence for both kids.
While I don't like how much she got as part of the assets, it was better than I would have likely gotten had I gone to court - so, that $40K was money well spent. I learned early on that the attorney is not my therapist, and didn't go to them to complain or vent - efforts were always focused on the end game - custody, asset division and support - making them as favorable to me as possible, which I think I got.