I was separated for over 2 years and just divorced on May 17. I knew then that my x had a boyfriend since around March as my children had told me about going over to his place on their weekend with mom. Knowing this did not bother me at all, but now that I'm "officially" divorced knowing she has a boyfriend "bothers" me for some reason.
I did not date during the separation b/c I was accused of cheating (i did not cheat) but finally around Feb/Mar 2012 I couldnt take it any more and put myself out there, and I've gone out and fooled around a couple times.
What I'm having trouble with is understanding why this is bothering me now, when it really did not before? Anyone else experience this? What did you do?
My daughter turns 6 tomorrow and I'm afraid that she'll invite me into her mothers home while her boyfriend is there. Whenever I do meet him, I know that I'm going to introduce myself, be polite, and *maybe* tell him I appreciate him being so kind to my children. The guy lives in the country and has a pond where my kids go fishing, he's got some atv's that they go riding on, etc. (My kids are 9-boy, 7-boy, 5-girl).
I've chosen to approach her future bf's this way b/c I'm quite certain that she not only has nothing nice to say about me, but she has made many false accusations about my character and treatment of her, and I'm certain she'll say those things to a boyfriend to help gain sympathy from him, and I also think that if I were to be standoffish and cold-shouldered, such behavior would upset my children. (It's not so much that I want to disprove what she says but more so to simply be the person that I am.)
I really don't care if she dates, in fact I hope they fall in love and get married b/c then I kiss alimony good bye, so why is her dating him suddenly "bothering" me?