Throughout the divorce I have made an honest effort to do what is best for the kids, and what makes the most sense. Many times I have gone out of my way to make things easier for the ex (if it made sense).
For example, I live in a rural area about 20 miles from anything other than a gas station. Even though she is supposed to pick the children up at my house, I will meet her in town and save her 40 miles of driving. But only if I have another reason to go to town. It just seems like a waste for her to drive out to my place, get the kids, only for me to follow her the 20 miles into town. On the other hand, If I am picking the kids up at her house, she will refuse to meet me in town. After I pick up the kids, she will get in her car and basically follow me until she gets to work or wherever it is that she is going.
I know that sounds kind of petty, but it's just an example of how she likes to take, but never gives.
Now that the divorce is final and we are trying to tie up the loose ends, I am running into similar situations. She is unwilling to be cooperative on most things, and she can't even at least pretend to be cordial most of the time. It is against my nature to be vindictive. But is getting very hard not to be when the opprotunity presents itself.
For example. She still has alot of her personal items at my house. The decree says that she will pick them up whithin 10 days of the final judgement. It has been 3 weeks. Now she is sending me a list of the things she wants, and asking me to bring them to her because she cant fit the larger items in her car. Part of me wants to tell her that she had 10 days to get her things, they are now sitting by the curb. The other part thinks it may be best just to take the stuff to her, just to help maintain the peace, and to keep her from coming to my house.
What do I do? DO I be nice without going to far out of my way, or do I make things difficult for her every chance I get.