Moving back in

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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Havalu7 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:08 pm

Dude not trying to beat you up as you already me think admitted that you should have closed that bag prior to making any other moves.

But we want to look forward and not backwards.

Do you have any other financial loose ends that you need to correct now that you know that anyone is capable of anything in open warfare? You didnt think she would do anything with that or those funds and she did. Anyhing else come to mind? Deeds, funds, accounts, personal valuables, toys like guns?
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Lion1234 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:28 pm

No, nothing i can think of.

She mentioned something about going to court and having the cash I moved frozen. Not sure how that would work before either of us files. Plus freezing would affect her, not just me.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Havalu7 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:31 pm

DGAF meter turned up high yes?

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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Lion1234 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:36 pm

Yes.

However I don't want to get caught with my pants down so I try at least to research this crap.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Havalu7 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 5:06 pm

Reaearch away, assets should already be protected, dont take legal advice from your lovely STBX.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Lion1234 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 5:19 pm

That's one thing she doesn't do - offer advice. just asks for what she wants and leaves me to find the way to fulfill it.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby HaltAndCatchFire » Tue Jan 16, 2018 10:37 am

Lion1234 wrote:until i moved back in and moved the money from the joint accounts, she seemed to be amenable to sign over the brokerage account to me. at least that what she said. don't know if she would have gone through with it or not, but now she's not going to do it.

Woman's prerogative: She can and will change her mind. Reframe your actions with that in mind.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Lion1234 » Tue Jan 16, 2018 12:48 pm

All the money is out of her hands. Even the brokerage.

She keeps telling me, ordering me, really, to put the money back. Doesn't want to show me the bills, it's beneath her apparently.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby LovingDadof2 » Tue Jan 16, 2018 1:02 pm

How is the brokerage now out of her hands? You are not being consistent with what you are telling us.

What cares what your STBX says. You are to not take legal advice from her. In fact, you really shouldn't be listening to her unless it involves your kids. Stop letting her occupy space in your head. She's there fulltime. It's evident how you keep reporting back what she said. Who cares.

What are you doing for you? How is SuperDad going? What questions do you have regarding your plan? What is your plan once you can file? Focus on you and what you can do, not on her or you'll have such a hard time getting through this.
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Re: Moving back in

Unread postby Lion1234 » Tue Jan 16, 2018 1:56 pm

A while ago I made myself an authorized user on the account. It gave me trading and transfers. So I sold and transferred. Managed to get the money out before she noticed.

Now, I don't care what she says nor do I take legal advise from her. I keep myself constrained to the kids, spending time with them, playing, homework, cooking, etc.

I've been reading the threads here, the only questions I had recently was on ROFR. I think I worked it out, but any pointers are always welcome.
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