First day of school

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Re: First day of school

Unread postby Havalu7 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 12:17 am

Scout howzit?
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby dadforever » Thu Jan 11, 2018 6:31 am

If you are going to try and work it out, make it conditional. First condition is that she writes a letter of apology to the school admitting that she was wrong for pulling them out- and promising to never do it again. Second condition is that she gets a job. Third condition is that she stops swearing around the kids.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby scoutdad » Thu Jan 11, 2018 9:40 am

Not much happening guys. I am spending as much time with the kids as possible and journaling. I have taken a different route and not tried to take them to school as I am not sure it will help in the short term. Mom has started school again but this time I am involving myself so I can be considered the teacher as well. I met with my EAP on Monday. It went ok. I had a TON to get off my chest.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby Havalu7 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 10:05 am

Scout just keep up the avoidance of conflict with your new beat friend the digital audio recorder (DAR) keeping your new found huevos warm 24-7.

I will let the other chime in on the school issue. Glad you got in with the counselor. Really good to get out of the "commitee of one" in your own head, which is another function of the sounding board of the forum.

Keep us posted and stay calm dude.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:01 am

OP - Great job leveraging your EAP, that took real strength.

Do you see how this will look towards the courts regarding school? You not only didn't take them back to public school, but you are actively homeschooling them. If at any point you believe that they should be enrolled in public schooling, every day you participate is a day you signal your agreement. That will set status quo, enabling the mother to be a stay at home parent for the next x years.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby Chaos » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:02 am

It doesn't matter. She's going to have to go back to work. The homeschooling issue will resolve it's self.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:07 am

yes, we certainly see it differently. Based on OP's post history, I believe he is at risk for buying into the homeschooling trap and thus acquiescing things to accommodate the mother in doing so.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby Chaos » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:26 am

That's possible.
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Re: First day of school

Unread postby chereeda » Fri Jan 12, 2018 11:54 pm

Um, you enrolled them in public school? And now they aren't going? Truancy officer may start sending you nasty letters...

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