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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby BartSimpson » Thu Dec 07, 2017 9:58 am

Is she hard of hearing - do you have to repeat yourself louder for her, and does she speak louder than she did before?
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby fisher_dad » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:06 am

Selectively yes. If it has to do with any request or concern not desired, that kicks in. I only raise my voice if there's ambient noise for sureness.
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby Campfire » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:06 am

Somdomguy wrote:NJ has no income, it's to keep from looking like the money pull was a control move. If I cut her off and know she has bills, will judge consider it? Would have thought she would get a job, but if she demands custody without putting in the work, why award it?



You are giving a substance abuser money to further their substance abuse while caring for your children. Does that make sense to you?

The judge won't bat a single eyelash at you cutting her off financially. You are not trying to control the mother, you are preventing the mother from dissipating marital assets. As mentioned, be prepared for possible court ordered support.
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby Campfire » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:07 am

Somdomguy wrote:Oxycodone, Klonopin, Zoloft, cyclobenzaprine, duloxetine. All not recommended to mix. Rizatriptan. First 2 I think are the major ones.


Do you have firearms in the house?
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby BartSimpson » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:12 am

She has an Oxy problem. The first sign is loss of hearing. I’m asking you about her hearing, not the environment you argue in.

We have an epidemic in this country. In Harrisburg, 19 people a week overdose on pain medication. 19 people a week in one city, about half of them die.

There are a lot of topics going on in this thread, so I’ll idle for awhile, but I want to circle back to CPS and who they are when the conversation lulls.
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby fisher_dad » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:16 am

Filed end of December 16.

Firearms exited premises immediately.

I gotcha Bart. I'm not familiar with that symptom. Can't tell for sure on the hearing and it's prescribed. No 'junky' behavior I can see but the hiding alcohol and drinking while on it is a serious concern of what else may be hidden.
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby BartSimpson » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:20 am

There is a Black Box warning on the product to not mix with Alcohol, as well as the Klonopin.

She is taking several highly addictive drugs, mixing them with alcohol, when the nature of the treatment is for depression and anxiety - none of that makes sense medically.

Oxy - It’s prescribed for what?
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby fisher_dad » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:24 am

I nearly called for an ambulance one night when she was completely gone and passed out not long after this started the past year. I thought she was going to die.
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby fisher_dad » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:33 am

LovingDadof2 wrote:Cutting her off also has the benefit of forcing her to secure a job. You want her working before this is finalized as this helps reduce any CS and SS payments.


I'll be reaching out on this one. Thanks
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Re: Bearing it ALl

Unread postby BartSimpson » Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:34 am

If you had to choose in an emergency, would you save your children’s lives or the mother’s?
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