The long and short of it

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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby massdad1234 » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:30 pm

good luck, but you seem to only want to be told what you want to hear. It also looks like you either have side action or plans to it, or want help on how to have your kids as little as possible but paying your ex as little as possible. Otherwise, if you have been actively engaged in the children's lives, you should have no issues getting at least 50/50 parenting time.

So what exactly is it you are looking for besides all the mumbojumbo about contracts blah blah blah?
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby BartSimpson » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:32 pm

You don’t have a contract. You have an analogy that marriage is like a contract.

Business and family are not the same law. That’s why lawyers specialize.

Since your basic belief, that marriage is a business contract, is wrong - now what?
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby afc » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:33 pm

It's done. You are married with children.

The only way to avoid what you need to do is to go back in time and hire a surrogate to carry a fetus that was created with your sperm and an egg donor and be the only legal parent.
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby massdad1234 » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:37 pm

you meant contract with a surrogate right?
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby afc » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:39 pm

massdad1234 wrote:you meant contract with a surrogate right?



And the egg donor


< feces > man....cloning it is then!
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby massdad1234 » Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:43 pm

divorce handled by the bbb!! Hoorah :lol: :lol:
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby TJinCA » Tue Nov 07, 2017 2:00 pm

Campfire wrote:13,

I'm not good at complex math. Just to clarify, you have 4 kids, right?


Yeah, these days "two kids of each gender" isn't nearly specific enough. When you count all the various gender identity varieties out there this could probably be anywhere from 0 to 35 kids... :lol:
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby TJinCA » Tue Nov 07, 2017 2:38 pm

13astage wrote:The issue here is trying to find a LEGAL way to dissolve the contract without entering into a new contract.


The LEGAL way to "dissolve" your marriage contract is to go through the divorce process as defined by your state's family law code and implemented by the family law court in your county. I think if you try to make that something it's not it's going to cost you a lot of time and money, and you'll eventually wind up doing things the state's way.

I don't think you can really dissolve your marriage without "entering into a new contract" when there are kids involved. If there were no kids you could simply divide your property in a mutually agreeable way and walk away from each other. But the state has an interest in making sure that the parents of the kids remain responsible for them (so the state doesn't have to be), so the court is likely to issue orders that are binding on each of you to accomplish that interest and may require you to cooperate with each other when it's in the best interest of the children.

The folks here have either been through this or are in the process of going through it. Many are not tactful in their advice and some are not correct in their interpretations but at least you can get the benefit of experience.
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby Campfire » Tue Nov 07, 2017 2:56 pm

TJinCA wrote:
Campfire wrote:13,

I'm not good at complex math. Just to clarify, you have 4 kids, right?


Yeah, these days "two kids of each gender" isn't nearly specific enough. When you count all the various gender identity varieties out there this could probably be anywhere from 0 to 35 kids... :lol:



I was more asking whether the kids were "bi-gendered" or whatever the hip term is these days. Hermaphrodite may be passé. It's not the first time this issue has arisen here I'm sure.
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Re: The long and short of it

Unread postby a dad » Tue Nov 07, 2017 5:22 pm

Mocking children behind their back is apparently funny to some, speaks volumes about character, to others. Maybe try helping the guy instead of making fun of his children in his own thread.

OP, you're the only one who can figure out what you want. And it sounds like divorce. What are your custody goals? How old is the youngest?
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