lovingfatherof2 wrote:I would advise against doing that.
The information you want can be obtained by calling the school or whoever holds the events.
Yeah, better idea. I didn't really read the substance of the request.
Schools are used to having two households to send stuff to. From that end, you're not unique. They aren't always used to both parents being interested and involved. Make sure you aren't overly assertive, because they ARE used to parents sometimes bullying their way into kids' lives. Their interest is in protecting all of their students, and you'll raise the ire of every mama bear in that office if this is your approach.
Here's what you should do: stop by during office hours but AFTER school has let out and the buses have gone. It's the least busy/stressful time of day in the office. Mention who your children are and ask "what's the best way for me to get onto the email and mailing lists for <child(ren)>?" Have a copy of your divorce decree in a folder with you, but do not offer to provide it unless they require/request it
. You just want to have it on hand in case they do. Your demeanor, and being able to politely provide a copy of the decree if needed, will go a million miles.
I'm sure you understand the need to have the decree on file. It's called FERPA (it's education's privacy regs). Children who have a parent or other family member who is not supposed to contact them could easily have their privacy compromised if not for this safety guard.