workdog3 wrote:BartSimpson wrote:Legal fees are rarely awarded, and when fees are assigned, it is a token amount about equal to the initial retainer.
Divorce lawyers don't work on the speculation that fees will be awarded - opposing counsel is being paid now, before he does the work. Who is paying the wife's legal fees now?
When we physically separated after selling the house last June, she took approximately $90K out of one of our joint accounts and moved it into another of our joint accounts. That account's balance is now below $60K, partly due to legal fees and mostly due to her not working.
Keep track of the $$$ she is taking out please, you can put those on her side of the B/S. If you are not on the a/c issue subpoena to get statements,
get all the paperwork ready for your atty.
Manage Atty = telling him/her NO and telling him/her what you want done, do this at the very last moment.
Example: Morning court date, meet atty 1 hour before court and give him written guidelines as to how you want to proceed.
This is if you don't trust your atty, I don't trust anyone one of them any more.
Simple reason is that they (your atty and OC) probably spends more time together every week than you will ever in a month/year.
I treat my atty like a hired gun , I give my atty written instructions on how to proceed, and then followup with a facetoface meeting.
Use excuses like, I am scared to do this, I am not sure if I should, why don't we try this first. Remember, push your agenda.
I found that atty's get together and negotiate a deal and they your atty will try to sell that to you. And in some cases some of us had our atty's sell us out.
So anytime your atty proposes something, always ask him/her why and bring it back here.