S12, Married 17 yrs
False DV, arrested, have a criminal attorney. TRO was granted. TRO still in effect that extends to S12 based on allegations on her part which are unfounded. STBX is a HCP/NCP.
Went through the list, extensive forum research, began implementing immediately (couple days after it happened).
Austerity, voice recording, (hindsight is 20/20), financial disentanglement, separate account at a new bank, digital presence, passwords, financial institutions notified, P.O. Box, newly started journal, etc.
I have begun reconstructing a journal for superdadness, and have reconstructed all pertinent financial documentation and have both hard and soft of all materials.
I have retained a male litigator, and feel comfortable there. I know I must manage my case, all aspects of it. I have also began researching case and family code extensively. Texts, emails, and facebook posts archived and printed telling the world how much of a wonderful husband and father I am.
The question is that I have no contact with S12 per theTRO, and was advised not to pursue by my criminal attorney until those proceedings are complete. I want to ex parte for custody but I'm not sure that is the right move, but I am also aware of status quo and its implications and any appearance in the eyes of the court that I am somehow not seeking custody. Should I move forward with and ex parte now or wait?