dofb wrote:You are correct, being in a loveless marriage sucks, but it's also how you respond to it that matters. Will your kids see a fighter or will your kids see a quitter? How do you find your inner happiness? Or do you have codependency issues that you cannot function on your own?
My kids will see me as superdad.
Finding inner happiness is an evolution, and I'm not done. First step was to get rid of anxiety by living in the moment through mindfulness meditation. Next step is to develop gratitude which I'm doing via 5-minute journaling. The best way to explain my goal is this quote from the Dalai Lama: If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
My marriage is irretrievably broken. The relationship with my wife is full of criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. That's no way to live. I made a genuine attempt to address it, and no other path forward remains except divorce or living in misery.