Community property...

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Re: Community property...

Unread postby Trevor » Fri Apr 14, 2017 4:35 pm

How long are you anticipating two rent payments?
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Re: Community property...

Unread postby afc » Fri Apr 14, 2017 4:42 pm

Dude, you're there. You're the most comforting and familiar thing to her.

Get get new stuff with her. She can help pick out her new linens, pick a color for you to paint her new drawers, etc.
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Re: Community property...

Unread postby JimRockford » Fri Apr 14, 2017 4:53 pm

Here's a problem that I'm seeing:

You are withholding funds from your STBX, but still providing for her and your daughter, I see no problem with that. However, you should be banking those funds as they are still community vs. using them to pay for Residence 2. I am thinking that your STBX can effectively make the argument that you unilaterally spent community funds towards something that was strictly for your benefit and you may one day be ordered to give them back out of your portion of the settlement.
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Re: Community property...

Unread postby FlyGuySLO » Sat Apr 15, 2017 4:07 pm

JimRockford is correct. The model you have set up is going to come back to bite you. You should stay in the house and show no intent to ever move, and bank that funds for settlement later.
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Re: Community property...

Unread postby Havalu7 » Sun Apr 16, 2017 8:54 am

Dude no one is trying to fight you on this.

Moving back in will not be easy but it's the best thing to do.

It's like trying to fight gravity. It usually never works for long duration.

Besides who wants to drink Tang the rest of your life.

Move bag in bro and pick up a shovel here and you can be one of the highly paid volunteers here who are able to tell guys who are in situations just like you that it can be done and tell them how.

Please please be another success story here and not the "I wish I had listened to you guys".

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