Southern California, Father of D2
Filed almost 4 months ago and still residing at the marital home.
STBX filed RFO for custody and because I haven't contributed to living expenses since filing (I am providing for my child and pays her health insurance and daycare directly in full) as well as other standard common things like diapers, milk, food...
Court date set in a few weeks
I have gotten a separate place that is move in ready for me and D2 and within a few miles from marital home to help win equal custody with the court (not the best option for my wallet but I hope it will be worth it).
I have removed most of my personal things and I started setting up D2 new place.
Question: D2 has plenty of clothing / accessories / shoes / toys... My understanding is that it's community property but there are things that I could use for the new place but STBX called me on it saying to bring it back (things that are no longer used and just sitting there).
I believe it is in D's interest to get some of her things to help with smoother transition.
Can't talk nor discuss anything with STBX but I won't go there.
What do I risk by removing a few things which are NOT USED?
What bugs me is that I haven't listed all these in the assets declaration... I only listed things valued at $100 and above but I guess I should have been crazy specific... Is it too late now? Why would STBX have to keep it all, it does add up if I have to purchase everything (not a huge deal, but still, doesn't seem fair).
Since I've been paying daycare in full, will I be required to continue paying it in full once we have a custody agreement?
I don't expect stbx to agree to a parenting plan at court date, what happens then... will the court order we go to mediation (first mandatory mediation was a total waste, stbx just complained during private interview and we were all sent home without a chance to sit around a table).