Basically what I received was info I already had. I paid $350 for an hour of basic knowledge. I want STRATEGY! What can I do to protect my assets?
No lawyer will tell you his or her strategy during an initial consultation, they will only give you the big picture, generalities. That's what I got, and it sounds like that is what you got. So:
Step 1. Do a thorough research on divorce lawyers (martindale.com, ask around, court house hearings)
Step 2. Pick 2-3 and interview them. Many/most do offer free or discounted initial consultations - you just need to ask ahead of time. $350 is way too much for an initial consultation.
Step 3. Select one and retain him or her.
Step 4. File for divorce.
Step 5. Depending on what your issues are (custody? alimony? assets?) discuss strategy with your lawyer. In many cases that is only possible after financial discovery.
Whenever you think divorce is bad, remember there are worse things than divorce.