dofb wrote:She's dropped out of college a few times. Going back again.
Is she currently working, if so how many hours a week?
dofb wrote:All kids come half of spring break and half of fall break, plus 10 days after Christmas to me.
The Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines has a very well laid out holiday parenting plan, why not follow that? Splitting spring break and fall break virtually ensures there will be future conflict when either parent wants to take a trip.
dofb wrote:I get head of household.
Keep in mind that HOH cannot be governed by a divorce decree, you have to meet the IRS requirements to file as HOH.
dofb wrote:Childcare will be 50/50 and I will pay my share of 4-5 years up front.
Can you explain this statement? You should ALWAYS pay childcare directly to the childcare provider, as well as receive a credit on the CSOW for childcare payments. Paying up front directly to your ex would be a horrible idea.
dofb wrote:We both get right of first refusal.
Your attorney has probably already explained this, but case law in Indiana has deemed that an adult living in the household negates the need to offer ROFR parenting time to the other parent. If your STBX moves in Mr Wonderful a month after the divorce is final, she is free to leave the children with Mr Wonderful whenever she leaves her house without offering ROFR. Just something to consider when you weigh the expected benefits of ROFR.