dofb wrote:Indiana. I want 50/50.
If you want 50/50 then you need to make 50/50 for all work now. And the following should never be stated to your STBX or OC:
dofb wrote:For child 3, I want 50/50 as soon as she's in kindergarten. Child 4, I want to transition to weekends in the next few years and then to 50/50.
I think I missed it, but how old is your youngest? Courts are not going to order multiple parenting plans unless both parents agree, so stating that you are perfectly willing to take the standard EOW parenting plan for the two youngest will most likely rubber stamp that parenting plan for all your children.
During my divorce process my youngest was 4, pre-K and in daycare. I fought for 50/50 and won, and made it work until my youngest was school age. I walked into court with a daily plan down to the minute for all the children, when we'd get up, eat, drop offs at daycare, school for the older children, pickups etc. This plan also included the name, address and phone number of the specific daycare with an opening for my child. You need to present a case making it clear you can manage 50/50 custody today for all your children or you will most likely receive the standard EOW plan with an uphill fight for more time in the future.
I don't have the case law on hand, but want to point out the standard EOW plan laid out in the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines is the minimum parenting time deemed healthy for the parent/child relationship and was never meant to be the normal parenting time for the non-custodial parent.