Howdy folks, dad of four girls (all under 9 here). I am from the state that has a basketball movie named after it. Married 14 years, of which STBX chose not to work or work part time after child 1 was born. A while ago I got the “I love you but not in love with you” spiel that many people here have gotten. It’s weird because just a month ago, she was in with the sex and plans for summer and house improvements. I don’t really know what threw the switch – hoping it’s not another man, but more of a selfish “I am not content” and will do something deal, but even if it is, I am awake and alert and done. We had a big argument a few years ago, but didn’t really fight or argue recently. Sure, we disagreed, but people are not twins and are entitled to their opinions. So, this came as a shock, but she managed to break me off my “oh < feces >, I can work on this” in two weeks when I saw her make-up face sending pictures to someone else (who she claimed to be her girlfriends). Oh well. And if it’s a man, I wouldn’t really be surprised as I have seen the MIL’s behavior over the years.
I have read the list and am exercising some of it, and she’s starting to see some reality as she’s out looking for things. So, the recent offers haven’t been too bad. I will still serve her with my list first, and see where it goes. That said, I have a question for folks: is it settle for something good enough, or is it full scorched earth? I am in a job that handles a lot of negotiations, and am willing to do the “truly” equitable deal, but will turn it into a “burn the universe” if I sense STBX and OC are trying to pull a fast one on me. Also, I have heard from my attorney, whose office was highly recommended for father’s rights, that they don’t want me to be overly aggressive. I am thinking of doing a “here’s the deal” or we see each other in court. I actually reminded my attorney that they work for me last week. Thoughts please?
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on Sun Mar 19, 2017 8:06 am, edited 1 time in total.