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divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby learnedhardway » Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:19 pm

started a new thread. Anyone know the concerns divorcing an alcoholic? meaning will this be some sort of disability that she can use to make life more difficult for me? she is undergoing outpatient treatment right now. It is a 2 week session. Tomorrow there is a session for the spouse to come and be a part of. I figure I should go to show for now that I am still supporting so she can't say somehow that I didn't if it comes to that. Also, obviously waiting til the 2 week session is done so I'm not making a move in the middle of rehab. beyond that, any other things anyone knows of that can work against me?
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby BartSimpson » Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:32 pm

This rehab, what is it based on? What is their method?
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby learnedhardway » Fri Mar 17, 2017 9:08 pm

They do psychiatric evaluations. She was diagnosed as anxiety and OCD. She was prescribed some meds.
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby BartSimpson » Fri Mar 17, 2017 9:12 pm

No, that's not what I'm asking.

She is spending the day in rehab doing what?
And is this program based on a particular method?
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby learnedhardway » Fri Mar 17, 2017 9:32 pm

Not sure if it is a particular method. They do group sessions and individual evals. Beyond that i'm not sure. I am supposed to go to a session tomorrow. So I'll know more then.
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby BartSimpson » Fri Mar 17, 2017 10:04 pm

Report back. This is something you should know.

And you definitely need to report back if this program involves the 12 steps - there are serious consequences for family to consider when a person gets involved up to their eyeballs in 12 step stuff.
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby 2Dadwipp » Sat Mar 18, 2017 4:37 am

Bart,

Can you elaborate on the issues and concerns with respect to 12 step programs?
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Sat Mar 18, 2017 5:16 am

A success rate less than unassisted cold turkey and an issue so common its been coined "The 13th Step" jump to mind.
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby learnedhardway » Sat Mar 18, 2017 6:11 am

I'm familiar with 12 sreps as thats AA stuff. She has done that before. She went thru rehab before we married. She did full rehab before where you basicall stay there full time. I was niave about addiction. But anyways, last night was a nightmare. She did a full rant in front of her S9. He was crying the whole time. I called ger mom to come get him as he should have never heard that. Poor guy. Meanwhile i am preparing a strategy of shutting off credit card etc.
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Re: divorcing alcoholic

Unread postby Havalu7 » Sat Mar 18, 2017 11:29 am

File an exclusive use with a TPO/RO if she continues this destructive behavior.

You DO NOT want to be taken down in this and if you happen to get ACCUSED of anything its your < hindquarters >.

Don't put this off and feel sorry for her. you are not helping her or your kids by standing by and possibly be caught up and implicated for something false or not.

Better have that digital audio recorder running broham.
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