I was away on business (not a regular thing but a one time travel) in California. My wife and I talked/texted throughout the entire trip. In fact, early on in the trip, she had expressed how much she missed me and wished I was there. She was in contact with me via text up until I arrived at my car at the airport for the 45 minute drive home to PA. She even sent me a video of our dogs playing outback while I was driving home. When I arrived home, her car was gone. I walked inside to find all the furniture, bedroom suite, TV (everything really) gone. She left a note saying essentially that she would always love me but she couldn't work through my lying any more and that all contact should be directed to her attorney. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. I immediately admitted myself into 30 day inpatient treatment. In the meantime, my wife filed for divorce within 7 days of leaving. Her lawyer has e-mailed twice to try and set up for me to receive the divorce papers; I have not responded.
She had cut off all contact with me and all contact from her family and friends (social media and everything). I have heard nothing from her in almost 2 months. I was never abusive or anything like that. In fact, we hardly ever fought. We were getting along very well, having great sex, laughing and enjoying each others company before I left. I did lie about my drug use (I had relapse that she found out before this) and had lied, in the past, about my drinking. But I just can't fathom why she would have zero contact with me whatsoever. I've written her two letters, but have received no response. I guess I'm just looking for any advice...on if/how to start moving on? Whether I should try to find out where she is? Contact her family? Should I continue to ignore her lawyer? She has filed for a consent and no-consent divorce. I guess I just need help/advice. Thanks!