Minerva - I agree with what you're saying. But you don't go far enough.
Minerva wrote:.....if you don't put support in the order at all (like $0 child support), they can come back to you for back support, because it goes to the first order of support. Which is why you should always put in the minimum even if you agree to no child support (most states it's $25-$50 a month).
1) A decree with no CS order would leave the door open for potential post-divorce arrearage. Because when NJ petitions the court for CS after divorce is finalized, it will be the first order for CS
. And that first order
could occur the day after divorce is finalized, or it could occur 10 yrs hence - at which time (depending upon his income at that time) OP could be on the hook for hefty arrearage.
2) An order for State minimum CS would prevent such arrearage. But CS could still be modified post-divorce.
3) Whether OP chooses option #1 or option #2, all other terms of his decree would remain unchanged. In this case, those terms would be S8's expenses (aka, CS deviations) that OP agreed to pay at the time divorce was finalized.
Remember, S8 is only 8 yrs old, and those expenses
will increase significantly as he gets older.
In this case, OP's best scenario is to lock in CS per state calculator and agree to no CS deviation and no college expenses. Granted, OP can always pony up for those extras, but ideally, there should be no mention of this in his decree.
Everyone is entitled to my opinion. - Maxine™