will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

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will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Lenny1970 » Tue Feb 14, 2017 10:40 pm

Can someone tell me if they think I'll have to pay alimony? I make about $85k. My wife makes about $75k. I sometimes think my lawyer is working for my wife. My lawyer told me that alimony is based on who paid for what when the couple was married. In my case, I paid 100% for everything out of a combination of savings, my pay and having some debt. My wife's paycheck would go into savings, her 401k & her IRA. If I'm following my lawyer's logic, I'm going to have to pay alimony even though our salaries are about the same and all the kids are grown. That doesn't make sense. But since I paid for everything while we were married, my lawyer is saying I should expect to pay alimony? Is my lawyer correct? Or do i need a new lawyer? Thanks.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Tue Feb 14, 2017 10:43 pm

You know you're entitled to half her accounts, right?

BTW, your attorney doesn't sound like he's advancing your interest. Might be time to shop around.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Outis » Tue Feb 14, 2017 10:56 pm

Beyond time to shop around.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Lenny1970 » Tue Feb 14, 2017 10:57 pm

Father ... right... I know about splitting assets... just concerned about the alimony piece; as I paid for everything while we were married. Thanks
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Lenny1970 » Tue Feb 14, 2017 11:00 pm

Beyond, you may be right about needing new attorney. But maybe she's correct. Interested to see if anyone had similar experience. Thanks
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby astrolink » Tue Feb 14, 2017 11:07 pm

Are you possibly out of the family home and still picking up all the bills? That's the only scenerio I can imagine an attorney telling you could pay alimony.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Outis » Tue Feb 14, 2017 11:41 pm

We were right on the last issue, and you're still here asking for help.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Lenny1970 » Wed Feb 15, 2017 7:36 am

Astro, negative. I'm still in the house. Thanks.
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby BartSimpson » Wed Feb 15, 2017 7:38 am

What happened with the arbitration?
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Re: will i have to pay alimony or making about same as wife?

Unread postby Lenny1970 » Wed Feb 15, 2017 7:58 am

Bart, I think we're going for divorce mediation. I think my wife and arbitrator will only take action if the mediation doesn't go her way. So for now, the arbitrator is holding off making any ruling pending outcome of mediation is my understanding.
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