I didn't realize how different one divorce attorney can be from another until I went to paid consultations with a few different ones. In hindsight, I spent to long blabbing on about my story, and not enough about the future and my goals and how to get there. But, you can see into their minds with the questions they ask you. Don't go with "feel good" or gut feeling on this - at least until you've had some time to "digest" different atty's. It's a paycheck to them: more conflict, more hoops, more money. No problem with that, but, keep it in mind.
You're looking for a contractor to do a job - that's get you with the kids and a fair rest-of-life settlement. They work for you. You're the head coach. Find someone who listens, understands _your_ goals, tells you straight scoop. Knowing the local court and staff is a big plus. Hired guns from out of town in expensive cars looks impressive, but gaining the judge's benefit of the doubt by being familiar is better. In my opinion anyway.
Si vis pacem, para bellum.
A father's love is like the NOAA weather radio - always the same message, always broadcasting, and available everywhere your kids might go. See to it brothers.