Tom Kirkpatrick wrote:Strategy and game plan are your responsibility, not your attorney's. The better prepared you are, the better you will be able to manage your attorney.
Agreed and I admit the problem was me. I was in a different world altogether. All the things discussed here on this forum were happening to me and I was constantly telling myself that these things can't happen to me. That my case is different. I found this forum and the list shortly after I got kicked out of the house. But it took me about a year to take the words here as gospel. That is when things started to turn around for me.
However, a good lawyer could have saved me from myself. I know it is asking for a lot. But my first lawyer was in worse shape than me - he had just had his third breakup I later found out
When my wife's (attractive) lawyer was memorizing my financials with the intent of shredding me to pieces in front of the judge, he was flirting with her and enjoying her jokes. He was telling me to pay my wife more because, "think of the kids."
If I were a lawyer, having seen so many people walk through my doors at the beginning of the divorce process, dazed and confused, I would sit them down and work on a plan with them. You and the people here do that. I do believe my current attorney would do that.
I don't reject blame for screwing up my own case at the beginning. People on here said to have a plan but I didn't know how or what to be perfectly honest. I was too far behind at the time. Or maybe my plan was to get the criminal charges and the DCF case taken care of first. A good attorney would have known what was happening to me and would have guided me do that. The two d-bags I hired did not know or care.