You need to establish status quo (usually 6 months minimum). To minimize alimony (amount and duration), you want her to become fully self-supporting - at least as much as possible.TB12 wrote:.....should I wait until 6 months.....
You file when you have distinct advantage. Ideally, you should catch her off guard. In this game, nothing pins her against the ropes like a well-orchestrated and well-executed surprise. Be sure to have a Plan-B for everything.TB12 wrote:.....is that too risky and I should file once I have all my affairs in order?
You want results, not a bargain.TB12 wrote:Any heartburn around the pre-paid legal benefit?
In this game, you want nothing less than a bona-fide family law attorney, someone whose practice is closely associated with your courthouse. Before making your choice, you should interview several attorneys. You want a litigator, not a mediator.
Your journal should reflect what you do ad Superdad. You don't want to badmouth your STBX.TB12 wrote:.....by recording I do 95% of the morning/evening routine, I'm also inversely recording her lack of?
In chronological order.TB12 wrote:Are you recording times along with dates?
Your journal helps you "remember" your story. Back up your journal with evidence like photos, receipts, etc. Your digital recorder helps you remember events that occurred during the day/week making journal contents accurate and believable.TB12 wrote:Do you record information about STBX that might help tell the story?