JustAboutOver wrote:All assets were made prior to marriage. I essentially left those assets alone and just earned an income never touching a penny.
Then it's cut and dried as far as these assets. The ONLY place you're exposed is her needing access to funds for legal fees, which I wouldn't worry about right now.
JustAboutOver wrote:I complained about the legal fees as I know people who are millionaires and they both just signed the damn paper for $400.00. Having to pay more than 100 times that amount is just insane.
Yes. Legal fees are insane and I know couples who divorced via "We The People" for $800 and are still friends. Then there are those that spent 5 years and a million dollars in legal fees getting divorced. I also know people who smoked and drank every day and lived to 90, and people who were vegan, marathon running Yoga freaks who got cancer at 45. Every situation is different and you just accept yours and move through it as fast as possible.
JustAboutOver wrote:Yea, I know, you are right. I just don't want to nail her to the wall and file so many motions it will make her head spin. Just about everyone has told me to do this. I was just trying to avoid going down that route. It was an option at the beginning, and the atty stated to her atty that is what I will do, and that got things moving again. I know, stupidly, I thought we could settle this amicably.
Look, you seem like an exceptionally smart and successful guy. But I think you and I share the flaw that we let our emotions (read: anger & frustration) cloud our judgement and we like to control things and use (our) logic to dictate the process. But it seems like your stbx has her own ideas of how things should be and one thing we've all learned here is that we can't control how other people act.
I will leave you with this, which I have posted in other threads. This is what I would tell anyone, including my kids, about conflict resolution:In life, you should do everything you can to avoid a fight, whether physical, personal, professional, or legal… absolutely everything you can. Conflict is expensive on many levels and you never know the true cost until it’s over. However…
If you are in a situation where you have done all you can to avoid the fight and it’s clear that you have no choice, then remember this: Hit first, hit hard, and do not stop until your opponent has clearly been defeated, surrendered, and given up. Because if you don’t, it’s likely that you will be the loser and end up injured physically, professionally, financially, or emotionally.
And guess what? You’ve already tried to avoid the fight - now you’re in it.