BubbaGumpShrimp wrote:mar2012 wrote:Yep, called the lawyer, I'm dropping off the cash Monday, (cant see him until then) to get it all started. Right when I got off the phone I felt pretty wierd...almost sick to my stomach, starting breaking out in a sweat, a lot of emotions hit me at once, mostly worry. I'm not hurt or bitter, just scared, I really really dont like courts/the system/lawyers/judges/bailiffs/the pictures of old dead judges on the walls/the smell/the other nosy people staring, the carpet on the floor & the benches. My Dad said I should wait until cooler heads previal, she might not do nothing for a while, hang on to your money, the sooner you get it done the sooner you will start paying support. Then I talked to some people who have recently been through this, & the input here, it was pretty much unanimous...start filling immediately.
The problem is that your Dad doesn't REALLY understand that you're dealing with an irrational/modern woman. I'm four months into my separation/divorce and my Dad (62) STILL doesn't REALLY get it.
My Dad has said all along..."when she sees that you're not coming back...she'll pack her stuff and get out of your house." Seriously...why the **** would a NJ do that? She's had a free roof over her head and she's free to come and go as she pleases.
Someone that's 60+ is from the generation where a woman cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, etc. Today's generation of women want the man to be the primary wage earner AND do all of the things mentioned above. All modern women want to do is dump their kids on someone else, spend their mans money, and have no responsibility around the house. Someone that's 60+ just can't wrap their head around the modern entitled female mentality.
mar2012 wrote:Talking to my Dad this morning giving him the latest, he say's it soungs like I want my cake & eat it too. He's say if I bring my son back home & dont take him back then I'm kidnapping him. He say's then I might as well go get her, bring her back home & work it out. I told him I would rather cut my right arm off than do that, I explained to him that I never want to get back with her,(he more than anyone should know this, seeing what I have been through with her) & this devorce is going to happen one way or the other. I told him that if I dont act now the STBX will have our son enrolled in school in Maryland & I'll be lucky to be able to see him EOW. He kinda shocked me.
Still thinking of a plan to get the address where she is staying, being as she is allreay fearfull of me taking him for a weekend & not bring him back, I doubt she will just give me the address if I ask. Legally speeking, does she have to disclose her current address to me? or my lawyer? I dont want her to know that I'm about to file just yet though.
I could ask my oldest, who is still living in the house to ask her for the addy because he wants to send his little Brother something in the mail. But I'm sure he knew where she was all along & didnt tell me, so I dont know where he stands on this thing.
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